Our commitment to purity often revolves around constant decisions. Should I do this? Is it ok if we just talk? Are these jeans really a little tight? Is it ok if we hug?
All the questions, and the only answers are within our own determination to seek Christ wholeheartedly.
A lot of us, especially girls, somehow seem to lose our balance when a guy hugs us. Should we, should we not?
It’s just a hug. A friendly gesture… and on and on our conscience debates.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to physical (apart from sexual) interaction between the two sexes. However, a definite requirement in our Christian faith is to live a life pleasing to Christ. Our every action should first be approved by His consulting hand.
However, here are a few thoughts that could perhaps get you thinking:
If you had to ask a young, unmarried person whether hugging/embracing is part of sex, they’d tell you no.
But, if you had to ask an older, married person whether hugging/embracing is part of sex, they would most probably tell you yes.
Why? Because it’s part of the package. An embrace is an act of affection, that, in my eyes, cannot be seperated from any act of love.
How then, do we as young people give away part of our marriage package away so freely? Girls want to be loved, therefore we claim it as a friendly gesture. Guys most probably want to stay away from hugs, but allow it anyways as it allows them to be pressed against a girl’s body.
I’m not saying that hugs are wrong. What I’m saying is that we need to ask Christ if our hugs are pleasing and honourable to Him. If not, then stop.
Ask yourself too, if your hugging causes others to stumble, especially the guy. If you’re a guy, it could be the girl.
What is your motive for hugging someone?
What does hugging to do you? Does it let your emotions take a mountain high spin and your thoughts a wayward stroll?
Unfortunately, these are some of the naked truths of casual hugging. It is not pure. You allow yourself to be swept away and your heart is left unguarded.
And if you don’t feel any emotions when experiencing a hug, it’s possible that you’ve numbed yourself to the idea that there’s nothing wrong with it.
Like dating, the Scriptures make no mention of hugging being a sin. However, as I mentioned above, our every deed is accountable to God and we should test everything in His refining fire.
As for me, there will be no hugging guys. I know my weakness. Therefore, when I’m offered a hug from a guy, I proudly proclaim that I keep even my hugs for my future husband.
The more you save before you get married, the more you’ll be able to give and the more you’ll be able to receive.
Whoa, I love the thought of that! Thanks to the grace of Christ.