Tons of Christian books and literary works are being written and published every year, on the issue of dating, relationships and courtship.
My eager hand itches every time I spot a new release on the shelf because somewhere, someone is missing the point. Whether it’s the author or the reader, is beyond my decisiveness, but I do have a few thoughts of my own on this extremely static matter.
In the October 2009 edition of Christian Living Today (SA), I stumbled upon an article entitled: For Youth Only: Are you ready for a real relationship?
With this being a Christian publication, and my ever-ready interest in varying opinions on sexual and emotional purity, I hurried to the indicated page.
Here’s an exsert:
How you can have fun without leading someone else into temptation:
- Watch what you wear
- Date in public
- Limit physical touch
- Courtship is key
- Build a friendship
While this article focuses on sexual purity, mention is made of the danger of dating. The articles continues to say, “Are you ready for a break-up or for marriage? Those are the only two ways out of a relationship and if you’re not ready for either one, then don’t date.”
That’s is quite the truth.
But sadly, the article contradicts itself by giving advice on what to do if you ARE going to date.
Somewhere along the way, the world, and thus the church, has lost track of the beautiful innocence of purity found in singleness.
I was mentioning to a friend the other day that so much focus is placed on how to have a relationship the right way without sinning whereas the focus on our relationship with Jesus Christ is pushed aside. If we have a living relationship with Him, then we will care what He thinks of us. He will be our guide, our convictor.
Young people are being prejudiced into thinking that dating is good. Just don’t do this, and don’t do that. Then you’ll be fine.
Did we even go onto our knees and ask our Creator if this relationship is His will? Will this benefit His Kingdom on earth? Will it enhance my romance with my Heavenly Prince?
Young people still continually fall into emotional and sexual sin because the heart of the matter is not addressed. Laying out rules of do’s and don’t’s will not help. We need to get back to basics, fall on our knees and tear our hearts open before God. Allow Him to deal with every bit of pretty and disgusting detail we hide there, and then freedom will come. And with freedom, conviction and leading. As well as the excited patience for true love at God’s appointed time.
These are ramblings, however, I wish to continue on the topic in a follow up post. Until then, blessings!